I had a conversation with a friend a month or so ago who was contemplating changing roles and he was stuck in figuring out how he would be able to keep his working hours workable for him. I didn’t understand.
He didn’t want to be a ‘slave’ at the new job, he said. Even though it’s a step in the right direction for his career, he was telling me that he either commits to working 80+ hours at the new job OR stay at the old job and manage the 60+ hours.
I got a tad mad. Why can’t we be nicer to ourselves? And dare I say it, why are we put last? Behind everyone else or organizations? Without the constant guilt/stress/anxiety?
I know I suffered from this for years and still a work in progress. “Bisi, Oh my God, can you just get yourself the shoes or the dress?” Forget about the others for a moment! I was quick to get and think of other people and when it came to me, PAUSE PAUSE, WAIT, do I really need that?
What makes it “guilt” when it has to do with me and “generosity” when it comes to someone else? This was what I eventually learned is a fear stemming from feeling that I wasn’t deserving.
So I began to practice different ways to switch the “G” word - Guilt to Generous. Yes, be generous to me! Here are some things I did:
Nice to Me -
Being nice to myself – Yes, and that includes speaking sweet, positive somethings to myself. No room for nastiness. Also, doing something for myself without any form of justification.
I have not turned into a self-centered soul; however, I know now thatcan offer a richer me with some self care. This is how I turned the G-word around.
So how can you begin to honor yourself and take care of ourselves better this week?